Men who don't open up can be frustrating, especially if you've been dating for awhile. Some people -- men and women -- have a harder time opening up and talking about their goals, ideals and emotions than others do. If you are dating a man with this issue, you may feel like it is hard to get close to him and connect with him at an emotional level. Getting him to open up isn't impossible, but it won't happen overnight. Rather, you need to encourage a little more opening up every now and then to make him feel comfortable and able to trust you.
- Avoid judging or criticizing him when he shows signs of opening up. Many men who look like they don't open up actually do, but they do so in small doses. If he "tests" you by giving you a little piece of himself, you need to maintain a non-judgmental attitude in order to make it clear to him that he's in a safe place.
- Give him time. If you constantly pester him to open up, he'll feel like he's on the spot. Take a step back and let him do things at his own pace. If you pester him, you'll delay the process even more.
- Exercise good listening skills. Men open up when they feel like they have a receptive audience. If you make yourself a receptive audience more often than not, then you'll be showing him how you are a good listener and therefore a good audience for him to open up to.
- Practice what you preach. If you open up to a man, he will recognize the emotional effort you are putting in. If you are willing to trust him, then he will be willing to trust you. So, encourage emotional intimacy by practicing it. It will take time, but he will eventually start responding to you.
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